Nothing Like I Imagined (Except For Sometimes)

Most of my friends and co-workers know I’m a huge fan of Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. What fewer people know is that I’m also a huge fan of Mindy Kaling.

Ok, ok. I’m sure you’re thinking, “what the heck do Dwayne Johnson and Mindy Kaling have in common?” The truth is, they are both amazing people. I think they are remarkable role models in a time where that’s a really awesome thing to be and something we all need right now.

I won’t go into all the many, many reasons I love Dwayne Johnson since this post is about my girl-crush Mindy.

Mindy recently published a collection of short essays titled Nothing Like I Imagined (Except For Sometimes). I listened to them all within a few days. Audible is the way to go since Mindy narrates them all herself.

In these essays, Mindy primarily focuses on recent events in her life and being a single mother. So… I knew Mindy had a daughter, and it had briefly crossed my mind in the last year or two to wonder who’s the father. However, I did not spend any time trying to find out the answer to this. And guess what? In her essay collection, Mindy talks about not being married, about being a single mom, and such. So I googled it. The paternity of her daughter, Kit, is a big fat secret, AND NOBODY KNOWS WHO THE FATHER IS. Not even her close friends. Mindy says until Kit is old enough to be told, no one else needs to know. Kit should know first. I respect that.

On top of that, I learned that Mindy recently announced that she gave birth to Spencer in September. NO ONE EVEN KNEW SHE WAS PREGNANT. Again, secret baby daddy.

I follow Mindy on Instagram, and I recall seeing all these great photos of her looking glamorous at home during quarantine. Turns out 99% of the photos are old, and of course, that’s why Mindy is clearly not pregnant in these photos.

Now, obviously, secret pregnancies and secret baby daddies are not the reason I think Mindy is amazing. She’s a woman, a person of color, and she’s freaking awesome. She managed to work her way from The Office writers’ room, to a role on the show, to her own show. And now she is “mostly producing.”

Hollywood needs more female voices. We need more women in power and more women of color. And while Mindy is obsessed with Instagram, her posts are also usually down to earth. She may look glamorous and beautiful, but she is also open about her struggle with weight and the fine balance she has achieved between her love for running and her love for cheeseburgers and fries. You have to admit, the woman has got style!

I also identify with Mindy a lot. I too love running and struggle with my weight because I love food. And in her essays, she talks about her social anxiety. I’ve never thought to use that term for myself before. However, the way she describes it sounds so much like me! I used to say “oh, I’m an extrovert, but I’m shy.” Now, I’m thinking social anxiety is probably a better description. If only I were 1/4 as funny as she is.

My favorite line from Mindy’s essay collection is (paraphrasing here) “If my choices are 15 minutes of boring sex every night with the same man, or fifteen minutes on Instagram, I choose Instagram.”

I think Mindy is setting a great example for women: you don’t need a man to be happy, rich, successful, raise a child…

Also, she is hilariously funny. Just watch the Mindy Project. You’ll see. If you watched the office, and you hated Kelly Kapoor, and you’re not a Mindy fan because of that… please, please give Mindy another chance. Watch the Mindy Project. Follow her on Instagram. Or check out one of her books or her collection of essays. You won’t be disappointed.

Oh and a funny coincidence? My first dog was named Mindy.

Road Seven

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Road Seven is an adventurous romp that unfortunately falls flat at the end. This is the first novel I’ve read from Keith Rosson, and I had high hopes at the outset.

Unfortunately, the two main characters are not at all likable. Brian is a hot mess, and Mark is either crazy or an excellent liar. 

First, we meet Brian. An unsuccessful, 30-year-old almost-Ph.D., he is thinking of dropping out. After responding to a bizarre online ad on a monster hunter website, Brian joins Mark Sandoval on an expedition to find a unicorn. With a background in anthropology and the historical significance of mythical creatures, Brian is uniquely suited to be Mark’s research assistant on this project.

Mark is ultra-famous. This is primarily due to his memoir—in which he claims to have been abducted by aliens. Some people believe this is the truth, and Mark has traded on this fame for decades.

The writing holds it all together almost until the end. As we progress to the climax of the novel, there is a theme of truth versus lies. There are a few possibly surprising twists as to what’s true and what’s not.

However, in the end, there is a “big reveal.” This is where Road Seven falls off a cliff. There is a complete lack of motivation and reason behind the reveal, and it’s just very out of place, in my opinion, with the rest of the novel. 

It’s like this man says, “well since you’re here, I have to show you this.” And the reader—me, in this case—is thinking, uh no you don’t. You want to, but it is entirely unclear why. This made me so angry. It was so pointless and very much felt like the author just wanted it to have a crazy ending and he couldn’t come up with a plausible reason, so he forced it. With no character motivation, no purpose.

I wish it had ended some other way. I enjoyed most of the story up to the end, despite not feeling much empathy or concern for our main characters. 

Rating: 2.5 out of 5.

Thanks to Book Sirens for a free copy in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions here are my own.

To Sleep in a Sea of Stars

Book Cover - To Sleep in a Sea of Stars

To Sleep in a Sea of Stars is the latest novel by Christopher Paolini. In it, we meet Kira, our narrator, and main character.

Kira is a xenobiologist, stationed on a remote planet as part of a small crew. Their job? Getting the planet approved and ready to be colonized, and become one of the next human habitats. Something unexpected happens, and Kira loses her fiancé and all of her crewmates.

This is all pretty interesting, and I liked the world-building. However, the story is advancing at a snail’s pace. After listening to about 9.5 hours of the audiobook, we reach a point where Kira has uncovered some amazing information and possibly a mini-climax in the novel. I feel that this could potentially have been the end of one story arc, making this book into a trilogy. However, there are 23 more hours to go in the audiobook.

I realized at this point, I just didn’t care enough to invest that much more time listening. I can listen to several other books in that amount of time.

The writing is excellent and the narrator is great. I wanted to love this book. It’s been a while since I’ve read a really great space opera, and I had high hopes for this one. Ultimately, though, the story is moving at such a slow pace that it didn’t capture my attention enough to finish.

Rating: 2 out of 5.

Thanks to Macmillan Audio and Netgalley for a free copy in exchange for a fair and honest review.

Biased? Isn’t everyone? [book review]

Earlier this year, the police brutally murdered George Floyd. Videos quickly circulated, showing a police officer kneeling on George’s neck for almost 9 minutes, while George repeatedly said, “I can’t breathe,” before dying of asphyxiation.

This is not the first police-related death, and it wasn’t the last. People continue to die at the hands of the police. How is it that men and women—sworn to protect and serve—are now considered by many to be the enemy? With so many people protesting the injustice of what happened to George Floyd and the riots that followed, my company’s CEO gave everyone a copy of Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do by Jennifer L. Eberhardt.

I’ll be honest. This was not the book I would have picked. I hadn’t even heard of this book before. It was also absent from many suggested reading lists that popped up all over the internet during this time.

However, I did ultimately find this to be an informative, well-written, educational book. And while the title seems to indicate it’s generally about bias, it is more specifically about race-related bias.

“Our ideas about race are shaped by the stereotypes to which we are exposed on a daily basis. And one of the strongest stereotypes in American society associates blacks with criminality.”

Eberhardt presents her information set within the context of her work with the Oakland police department and her brief time teaching introductory social psychology to inmates at San Quentin. She mixes anecdotes from her work- and life-experiences with many eye-opening statistics such as the one in the following quote.

“Some five million children—roughly 7 percent of all children living in the United States—have a parent who is currently or was previously incarcerated, according to data from the National Survey of Children’s Health.”

Overall, Biased is a decent introduction to bias and how it often unconsciously impairs our ability to be fair-minded and free from stereotypes and racism. The main point she makes is that everyone has biases, everyone is affected by bias. The goal is to recognize, if we can, what’s causing our bias and to try to see the world without it.

This is a good book to read if you’re looking for something close to home. I’m from San Jose, so I found it interesting to read about Oakland, which is nearby. However, if you’re looking for a book about bias in general or more specific information on racism, the history of racism in the US, or on how to combat racism, that’s not what this book is.

“It’s implausible to believe that officers—or anyone else—can be immersed in an environment that repetitively exposes them to the categorical pairing of blacks with crime and not have that affect how they think, feel, or behave.”

I have three main critiques:

  1. The chapter dedicated to the “Unite the Right” march, which occurred near UVA in 2017, doesn’t feel completely relevant and seems a bit out of place.
  2. When introducing statistics about Airbnb and Nextdoor, I felt she went overboard explaining these companies’ concepts. On the flip side, she mentioned Uber once or twice with no explanation. 
  3. The author offers minimal to no solutions or suggestions for continued reading, learning, etc. 

“How do we know when we are being insensitive or unfair? How much of who we are and how we feel is dictated by things outside our awareness or control? How often are we really the tolerant, fair-minded person we want to be? And how can we learn to check ourselves and mute the negative impact that bias can have?”

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.